Brother puts a massive wedge between his sister and her fiancé after not allowing him into his home, turns out everyone wants them to break up: '[Her friends and] I never liked him…'

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Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor
Nov 30, 2025 6:00 PM EST

There are some things only a sibling communicate and "I hate the person you're dating" is one of them. Just like in this family dynamic. It turns out everybody hated this girl's boyfriend. He's apparently entitled, lazy, and controlling. He even lost his job! Since losing his job, they cannot afford rent on just the girlfriend's paycheck. So they had to move, and the girlfriend was offered a room in her brother's place for free. The only caveat? The boyfriend was not only not allowed to move in with her, he wasn't even allowed inside of the house. Though the sister pushed at first, she eventually caved. It was either move in with her brother without her boyfriend, or move in with her boyfriend into his parents' house. And she most definitely did not want to do that. 

 

Now, the siblings are closer than ever and having a great time living together. The nefarious boyfriend, however, has started to become less and less of a priority in this girl's life. The brother felt bad at first for putting such a massive wedge between his sister and her boyfriend, but he quickly felt better after he found out nobody likes him. Her friends told him that they have always hated him AND that the reason he got fired from his job was due to "behavioral issues," so it seems like the only person who likes him is his girlfriend… For now. 

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  • "AITAH for not letting my sister’s fiancé move into my home"

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  • I'll start from the beginning, which would be roughly 3 years ago when my sister (26F) started to date Kevin (28M).
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  • I never liked him, and because I never really gave him a chance, he never liked me.
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  • At first, I thought it was me being an overprotective older brother which clouded my judgement, however my sister's friends don't like him either, and he got fired from his job earlier this year for behavioural issues, so that proves my point that he is a dick.
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  • Him losing his job is where this issue started. He lost his job two months before their rental contract was about to renew, and because they couldn't afford the place on my sister's wage alone, they had to move out.
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  • They had three realistic options. First one was find a cheaper rental, but considering they had one income coming in, it would be difficult for them to find approval.
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  • Second option was they move in with Kevin's parents, however my sister was very against this.
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  • Apparently his parents are very intrusive and don't respect privacy, and they live over two hours away.
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  • This would mean my sister would have to travel roughly 2.5 hours each way to get to work, and she would be away from everyone in her life, it would be a complete disaster for her.
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  • The final option is me. Our parents moved to Italy a few years ago so our mum can be closer to her family, and technically it made our dad closer to his family as they live in Greece... but it really isn't viable for my sister to move to Italy.
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  • I did suggest it, definitely would be cheaper than Melbourne. I also said I would happily take my sister in.
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  • I live in a three bedroom house, so she can move into my guest room and use the main bathroom as her own, as I use my ensuite because it's closer to my wardrobe.
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  • I do enjoy living alone, but I spent roughly 20 years living with her, so I have no issues with her moving in.
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  • I do have issues with Kevin moving in though. I don't trust him in my place, I feel he would postpone finding work because I told my sister I expect no financial contribution from her, and instead she should look to save her money, and he would take advantage of that.
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  • And once again, and I can't stress this enough, I don't like the guy. I even told my sister my only rule is Kevin can't come inside my house, let alone live with us.
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  • Thankfully my sister agreed with my rule, and this undoubtedly has strained her relationship with Kevin.
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  • He moved back home, and they'll be lucky to see each other once a fortnight. Kevin has gone through 4/5 stages of grief with me trying to get me to agree to let him move in.
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  • He still hasn't accepted no for an answer, but honestly that really isn't. my problem. My sister isn't really arguing for him, and I was worried she would hold resentment towards me, but honestly it's going fantastic.
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  • Our relationship hasn't been affected, and she's always been the tidier of the two of us, so the house is looking better than ever.
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  • I feel like the engagement will end however. I don't necessarily feel bad that it might, but I did put an absolute massive wedge in between them.
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